Online Therapy in Washington, D.C. and Virginia

The Invisible To-Do List: When It Becomes Unfair

If you’re the one who keeps it all running, you know mental load—the quiet, relentless effort that holds daily life together.

A nighttime scene of a swan surrounded by her sleeping cygnets in a nest. In the nest is also a squirrel, contentedly sleeping with them. A crescent moon shines brightly in the background.

Imagine a life where you:

  • Trust that others can contribute by managing their share of tasks from start to finish.
  • Go from being the project manager to being a participant in your own life.
  • Find the time and freedom to pursue your interests and reconnect with yourself.
  • Enjoy a sense of calm and fairness, knowing the many responsibilities of a shared home are no longer yours alone to captain.

Do you ever feel like your family’s default project manager, constantly dealing with an unseen, endless list of tasks? This is mental load: the exhaustive work of understanding, planning, and doing the countless tiny yet crucial details that keep life running smoothly. You know what needs doing, when, and how, often invisible to everyone but you. This isn’t just “feeling busy”—it’s a significant burden, disproportionately carried, leading to overwhelm and unfairness.

At Heart & Mind Insights, we understand. We recognize the profound fatigue, resentment, and anxiety that come with bearing this unseen responsibility. It doesn’t have to be this way. We offer personalized counseling via telehealth, specifically designed to help you reimagine your invisible to-do list and establish true fairness in your life.

Our approach to telehealth provides an individualized, evidence-based roadmap and dedicated support to help you make the invisible visible, practice effective communication, and redefine your role in your home. We’ll help you navigate relationship dynamics and build personal resilience, so you can move away from an endless to-do list (that only you can see) to rediscovering authentic connection and joy.

Ready to Share the Load?

Licensed Professional Counselor

Cheryl Zandt

Telehealth in Virginia and Washington DC

Cheryl Zandt is a compassionate and highly experienced Licensed Professional Counselor practicing via Telehealth in Washington DC and Virginia. She provides online therapy to adults; individually or in relationship.

With a warm, down-to-earth approach, Cheryl helps clients navigate anxiety, burnout, relationship challenges, and life transitions. She creates a supportive space where clients can feel heard, understood, and empowered to make meaningful changes in complex circumstances.

Cheryl Zandt LPC
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